[Chi's blog] DRAMA AND WHO BROKE THE MEDIA PROJECTOR

No one knows when or how, but one of our media projectors is broken. I was fascinated how Doers, Dreamers, and Feelers responded.

Mr. Feeler wondered how someone could break something and not report it. He felt a measure of insult and indignation. (Relationships.)

Mr. Doer wondered what happened. Was it dropped? Did someone mishandle it? (Analysis and action.)

Mr. Dreamer wondered how we might replace it. (Future.)

*All three thought about all three things. I report their first response.

Dreamers and drama:

I’m the Dreamer in the story.

Looking to the past feels like drama to me. When Mr. Doer asked about what happened, I wondered, “Who freakin’ cares?” When Mr Feeler wondered about who might have done it, I thought, “What’s the point?”

I feel like others are being dramatic when they think about the past. But it’s not drama. It’s a difference in perspective.

Doers think about process. Perhaps something was done that could be prevented in the future?

Feelers think about relationships. Perhaps we need to develop a more transparent culture?

To me, it’s all drama. Just replace the damn projector and move on.

Go wide:

Doers and Feelers widen a Dreamers perspective. I probably seemed disconnected and dis-concerned. Actually my view is narrow and short-sighted. There’s value in exploring what happened and who might have been involved. It just doesn’t feel worth it to me. 

Drama for Dreamers:

You feel drama when you try to solve the concerns of others.

In reality, they should address the issues that concern them. Yes, I need to be involved and helpful. But I don’t need to solve their concerns. They do, if it’s worth it to them. 

Dealing with drama:

Sometimes drama is about you, not others.

1. Listen to understand.
2. Ask, “What are your choices?”
3. Ask, “What do you want?”
4. Don’t assume responsibility for others.

What makes you feel drama?

How do you deal with drama?